Monday, May 13, 2013

Lessons from Reality TV: It's NOT All About You...

From The Real Housewives of Atlanta to Honey Boo-Boo, reality TV is here to stay. What can we learn from some of television's most guilty pleasures?

Nothing is more beautiful than a bride walking down the aisle on her wedding day. Of course, if you are a fan of Bridezillas and Say Yes to the Dress, you know that a bride can be awfully selfish and downright ugly when it comes to planning her big day.

Lesson #2: Sometimes it isn't all about you
The number of women who end up divorcing shortly after having their 'perfect' day is shocking but sadly expected. Well, after watching the tantrums and fits these women exhibit, seeing a divorce on the horizon isn't really shocking. What shocks me is that someone actually proposed to these women and entertained the thought of spending a life with one of them!

True, a wedding is referred to as the bride's special day. I get that. Yet, I don't think that means that they have the right to make everyone else's life a living hell in the process. A wedding is one day, a marriage should be for a lifetime. Yet, a lot of these women can't see pass the dress to get to the rest.

Once again, on reality television, immaturity rules the day. It's fun to watch dramatic train wrecks and meltdowns. In real life, it isn't so much fun. Children want what they want when they want it and overreact when they don't get it. As adults, we should know better.

So what are the lessons we can learn from brides behaving badly?

Don't put excessive demands on others. You want the moon and the sky from everyone around you but behave as if you are wallowing in dirt. Put yourself in the other person's shoes and make a request that they should be able to handle without any undo burden. If it is your dream and your goal, be willing to work with them to achieve the result you want.

Be sweet, not sour. Remember, you get more bees with honey than vinegar. Making your request in a way that is respectful and pleasant will get you further than screaming will. Well, screaming might get you the desired effect, but you'll be burning bridges and damaging relationships in the process.

Be considerate of others. When it comes to a wedding, the family, friends and dare I say, the groom, want to share in the brides happiness. Allow people to share in your happiness when possible. Honestly, how happy will your happy day be if you've made everyone else miserable.This applies doubly for a wedding but it applies to other areas as well.

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